Breathe Fire

Most of you have probably already read the article or at least heard about this news article, but I have to post it! It's THAT good! (Once again, I apologize. I'm not a writer-- but I am passionate about life & love, and I feel like maybe something I write will be exactly what someone needs.)

Here's a few snippets I especially LOVED.

Georgia Mom's Open Letter About Anna Duggar Goes Viral on Facebook: Raise Your Girls to "Breathe Fire"

A Georgia mom's letter about Anna Duggar went viral on Facebook this week, after Jessica Kirkland pleaded with parents to raise their daughters to "breathe fire" rather than raising them to have "no education and no work experience to fall back on" 

"I know everybody is laughing about this Josh Duggar story. Oh, a DUGGAR on Ashley Madison, it's so rich!" Kirkland wrote on Aug. 20, the day Josh confessed to cheating in a statement posted to his family's website. "I wish more people would talk about Anna. I normally keep things light on Facebook, but let's talk about Anna. Let me tell you: Anna Duggar is in the worst position she could possibly be in right now. Anna Duggar was crippled by her parents by receiving no education, having no work experience (or life experience, for that matter) and then was shackled to this loser because his family was famous in their religious circle. Anna Duggar was taught that her sole purpose in life, the most meaningful thing she could do, was to be chaste and proper, a devout wife, and a mother. Anna Duggar did that! Anna Duggar followed the rules that were imposed on her from the get-go and this is what she got in reward- a husband who she found out, in the span of 6 months, not only molested his own sisters, but was unfaithful to her in the most humiliating way possible. While she was fulfilling her 'duty' of providing him with four children and raising them. She lived up to the standard that men set for her of being chaste and Godly and in return, the man who demanded this of her sought women who were the opposite. 'Be this,' they told her. She was. It wasn't enough."

The Southern mom attempted to empathize with the reality star mom of four. "What is Anna Duggar supposed to do? She can't divorce because the religious environment she was brought up would blame her and ostracize her for it," Kirkland wrote of Anna's predicament. "Even if she would risk that, she has no education and no work experience to fall back on, so how does she support her kids? From where could she summon the ability to turn her back on everything she ever held to be sacred and safe? Her beliefs, the very thing she would turn to for comfort in this kind of crisis, are the VERY REASON she is in this predicament in the first place. How can she reconcile this? Her parents have utterly, utterly failed her. Think of this: somewhere, Anna Duggar is sitting in prayer, praying not for the strength to get out and stand on her own, but for the strength to stand by this man she is unfortunately married to. To lower herself so that he may rise up on her back."

"As a mother of daughters, [Anna's situation] makes me ill. Parents, WE MUST DO BETTER BY OUR DAUGHTERS," Kirkland wrote last week. "Boys, men, are born with power. Girls have to command it for themselves. They aren't given it. They assume it and take it. But you have to teach them to do it, that they can do it. We HAVE to teach our daughters that they are not beholden to men like this. That they don't have to marry a man their father deems 'acceptable' and then stay married to that man long, long after he proved himself UNACCEPTABLE. Educate them. Empower them. Give them the tools they need to survive, on their own if they must. Josh Duggar should be cowering in fear of Anna Duggar right now. Cowering. He isn't, but he should be. He should be quaking in fear that the house might fall down around them if he's in the same room as she. Please, instill your daughters with the resolve to make a man cower if he must. To say "I don't deserve this, and my children don't deserve this." I wish someone had ever, just once, told Anna she was capable of this. That she knew she is. As for my girls, I'll raise them to think they breathe fire."

Read the article from USA Today here.

I am SO grateful for parents who taught me that no matter what happens, I need to be able to take care of myself. Completely & entirely. Not once did my parents ever teach me to rely on someone else to get me what I want in life. I remember countless nights sitting on my parents' bed and listening to them lecture me about how important it was that I got a college education and that I was prepared for any needs I might have in the future. Even during the hardest times, when my grades were bad, and I really thought I could never actually get a degree, my parents believed in me and pushed me to excel. Not once did they ever say, "Oh just get married & have kids....let your husband worry about making money or getting an education." Not once. Because my parents loved me enough and believed in me enough to encourage me to go to school, to work hard, to know my value, my worth, and to breathe fire. 

It always breaks my heart when my friends or girls I know, stay in relationships because they have no where else to go. They have multiple kids or babies, but they know if they leave, then where will they work? Who will hire them? Who will watch their kids? How will they make ends meet? Will they be able to do it on their own? And though it may be an extremely rough road ahead, I beg of you to get out of those harmful relationships. I hope none of my friends are suffering in a relationship where they are mistreated. No one deserves that. This honestly goes both ways. Women can be just as abusive in relationships &/or marriages. If you're a guy and your wife is abusive or mistreats you, get out. 

See, the world wants to tear us down. It wants to treat us nothing more than what we are, instead of who we are. The world wants to hinder the potential of women in every possible way. A very good friend of mine told me just the other day, "Great people didn't become great having avoided all mistakes, hardships, or trials in their life-- they're great because of everything they overcame & achieved."

We are great. And we must live up to that greatness.

I'm so grateful I was taught to breathe fire.

Disclaimer: This was not intended to be a man-hater post. I love and admire men who truly love and respect women. If you read this post & felt otherwise, my apologizes.

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